First thing's first: how does desire work? And how do we get from wanting to want to have sex to actually wanting it?
Learn more about yourself + your partner, and use these sex therapist-approved tips for cultivating desire.
The Want/Will/Won't List
Wherever you are in your relationship, want/will/won't lists are so worth making. Explore your own ever-evolving desires, compare those with your partner's, and talk about what you both currently need.
Stretches for a Stressed Pelvic Floor
Everyone's pelvis contains an intense network of muscles that help us do fun things like peeing, pooping, and having sex. And a lot of people carry tension in these muscles.
So, unclench that butthole and round out the week with some stretches brought to you by a pelvic floor physical therapist.
6 Tips for More Mindful Sex
Your body is there and your mind... is on the moon. Or the dishes. Or the pile of clothes in the corner. Use these research-backed mindfulness tips to get off the moon and back into the moment.
How to Shut Down Anxiety + Intrusive Thoughts During Sex
If you've experienced sexual trauma, have a lot of anxiety around sex, or get some pretty disruptive thoughts in the bedroom—this one's for you. Gain some strategies to say goodbye unwanted thoughts, and hello Sexy Time.
The 5 Best Stretches for Painful Sex
The whole world screams about Kegels for improving your bedroom game, but what about a little relaxation? Whether you experience pain or not, these stretches can help prime your pelvic floor muscles for a jolly good time.
5 Tips for Rekindling Desire
Spark fizzled out? Totally normal. Here's how to bring back that loving feeling—from communication, to romantic habit-building, to changing the way you think about your own body.
How Kissing Like a Dog Can Change Your Sex Life
So much of the time, we go about touching our partners (and ourselves) the same way we always have. But what about a little experimentation?
Explore pacing and intensity when you kiss and touch—and unlock a whole new world. Seriously :)
The 3-Minute Game
This is our founder Emily's favorite game. Why? Because it's GREAT. Practice slowing down your monkey brain, asking for what you want, and giving/receiving without worrying about immediate reciprocity.
How to Say What You Want in the Bedroom
Chances are, you know what thoughts and images run through your mind and turn you on. But somehow you just… can’t… share.
Talking is hard, but it doesn't have to be! Go through these expert-recommended steps, and soon you'll be asking for what you want like a champ.
7 Ways to Get Sexy—Without Penetration
Say it with us: sex does not equal penetration. Sex is a whooooole spectrum of activities—and it's important to explore them!
The pressure to have penetration every time you get cozy with your partner can be a real desire killer—so in addition to expanding your sexual repertoire, taking penetration off the table sometimes can increase how connected you and your partner feel.
6 Positions to Try if Sex Hurts
Penetrative sex doesn't always feel good—these positions can help limit those pain points so you can worry less and just get down with your bad self.
We recommend exploring which ones work for you—and which ones don't. Pain and discomfort during sex come in many flavors, so while some positions may do it for you, others may not. Happy sexploring :)