I've been having painful intercourse for the last 4 years & there are 2 components to it: pain experienced from a penis (or toy) hitting my cervix, and a burning pain at the opening of my vagina coupled with inflammation and swelling in my labia minora that usually starts to occur after about 10-15 minutes of penetrative sex. The pain from the latter lasts sometimes a whole day or two afterwards. It's not only been an incredibly physically painful experience, but emotionally/psychologically painful & draining as well. That's why I was so excited to see Ohnut as a product. Does it solve all of my problems? No. But it eliminates the first component of pain which I am eternally grateful for.
Here’s the thing, though: Ohnut isn’t just a lovely product that logistically helps vulva-owners have less painful sex--it’s a vehicle for change, which is arguably more important! It opens up a dialogue about painful sex where there wasn’t one before. Painful sex is such a common, widespread issue for vulva-owners, but this is largely ignored by the general public & doctors alike because we dismiss it within ourselves, & then even if we do come forward and say it, were dismissed by our doctors too. I know that was definitely my experience. I’ve been poked, prodded, sonogrammed (multiple times), told I just have yeast or bacterial infections, told I need to wear loose cotton underwear during the day, & none at night, but none of it has brought me any closer to solving the issue. My pain is still here & no one has the slightest clue why, nor do they seem to care. I’m sick of this problem being delegitimized and/or minimized. The other issue is a huge lack of research when it comes to female sex organs, and it’s complete B.S. Just look up vulvodynia and you’ll see how little anyone knows about it. So THANK YOU Ohnut for bringing awareness to this problem & helping us take the first step in talking about it. To whoever is reading this, please talk more about it! Talk to your partner(s), your friends, your family, your doctors! Hopefully if enough people are aware, talking about it, & demanding solutions, the next step will be more clinical studies on it and more innovative products like these.
P.S. the only logistical issue I came across in using Ohnut is that my partner said he couldn't really enjoy sex much with 3 rings on & in certain positions, that's how many rings I preferred. I'm not really sure Ohnut can do anything to solve this, but regardless it’s not much of a problem. I still love them <3